Baby Girl, You’re Allowed to be Mad as Hell

Stop denying or apologizing for your anger.

Society, friends, or even family might have made you feel like anger is something to be ashamed of, especially as a woman. But here’s the truth, your anger is valid. Anger isn’t something to be judged or stuffed down. It’s something to be noticed, understood, and given the space to breathe.

Anger often shows up for a reason. It’s not just a flare-up of emotions — it’s a signal. Your anger is likely trying to tell you something important about yourself. About your boundaries, your unmet needs, or places in your life where you’ve been holding back or tolerating too much. When you push it away or deny it, you’re silencing a part of yourself that’s trying to protect and advocate for you.

Instead of shaming yourself for feeling angry or trying to suppress it, lean in and listen to what it’s saying. Your anger is not the problem — it’s how you respond to it that matters. Let it be a guide, a tool for understanding what needs to change in your life. Whether it’s setting firmer boundaries, expressing your needs more clearly, or simply giving yourself permission to feel.

Allow yourself to embrace the idea that your anger is trying to point you in the direction of growth.

You deserve the kind of honesty with yourself that allows you to feel all your emotions fully, including anger. It’s okay to use that anger to create change where it’s needed most — in your relationships, in your boundaries, and in the way you show up for yourself. Honor your feelings, and let them guide you toward healing, not shame.

So, in case no one ever told you — Baby girl, you’re allowed to me mad as hell.